Alcohol addiction is a terrible grief for the family. People who drink are the number one cause of domestic violence, financial hardship and the formation of false stereotypes in young children. By constantly observing drinking parents in the family, children can repeat their fate.
How do you convince an alcoholic to stop drinking?
The big problem is that drunks only recognize the existence of alcohol addiction at the very end. For them, alcohol becomes the only joy in life. The feeling of problems, difficulties in life is dulled.
It becomes almost impossible to persuade a person to stop drinking. But the phase of pleasant leisure with a drink quickly ends, diseases appear, irreversible changes occur in the cerebral cortex.
Growing social problems
- more frequent conflicts in the family;
- there is a change of environment - tried friends turn away, and alcoholics take their place;
- when drunk, a person easily breaks the law;
- loss of interest in life, etc.
How to get a loved one to stop drinking alcohol?
In order not to completely lose a loved one, relatives and friends have the last chance - to force a person to give up alcohol. In this case, no method should be ignored and ways of reintegrating a stumbled person back into society should be overlooked. How to persuade to stop drinking? Should he be convinced? Where to start? Maybe you need to force a treatment?
Undoubtedly, one must try to persuade, to make people aware that the problem exists, to help realize and understand it: the situation must be dealt with in one way or another. To reach his mind, to conjure up memories of how good it felt when alcohol didn't dominate him.
After realizing the problem, you must force the alcoholic to give up alcohol. This is an extremely difficult task, requiring incredible effort from you and the patient. Awareness of the problem does not always encourage him to stop drinking. A person does not admit to the end that he cannot quit, he assures others that he just does not want to quit yet. But as soon as he wants it, the vodka will be effortlessly forgotten. He sincerely believes that today he lacks real motivation, especially since tomorrow "Vasya's neighbor has a birthday", then on the day of the fisherman, but after the New Year, from 8 in the morning, he will stopdefinitively. It can last indefinitely. At the same time, if you try to insist, you can provoke strong aggression on yourself.
What can make a drinker stop drinking?
There are a few general rules for beginning to persuade an alcoholic:
- talk about the problem only when sober;
- you are important to the patient;
- prepare hard evidence that he actually became an alcoholic;
- justify your desire to help him recover from drunkenness;
- prove that there are reliable methods of treatment, cite as an example mutual friends who got rid of addiction;
- promise to support him morally until the end.
It's often our fault if drinking becomes a disaster. We ourselves try to ignore the problem until the very end. We lose the moment when addiction started to dominate. Remember, when your loved one started losing a sense of proportion more often from drinking alcohol, the next day we hear:
- "I always rest like that";
- "I have no problem, everything is in order";
- "I have everything under control";
- "it was meant to be" and so on.
Whatever the justifications that are called, the promises "this is the last time", know that you already have a serious problem! It means that your husband, son, boyfriend has become addicted to alcohol, now it is difficult to convince a man to stop drinking. But leaving it as is won't work, it will start to degrade right before your eyes:
- will not stop drinking, but, on the contrary, will do so more and more often;
- will become more aggressive over time;
- lose control more often;
- gradually destroy their emotional and mental state.
Even in a sober state, the patient has the consequences of alcohol addiction: irritation, depression, isolation, tension. It is not necessary to have illusions - "maybe it will get better on its own", "over time everything will change".
How do I get my husband to stop drinking?
It's time to act, but what will make a husband stop drinking? For this, all methods are good, you have to try everything possible. Before applying various methods of combating alcohol addiction, it is necessary to:
- get or increase motivation - it must be strong. A person experiences an addiction that only strong motivation can overcome;
- to increase self-esteem - to remind yourself of what you used to like, how appreciated it was at work before you started drinking.
An interesting fact: if a man is loved, appreciated, surrounded by care, then it is almost impossible to meet an alcoholic in such families. A man takes his first steps towards a bottle out of dissatisfaction with his life and family relationships. It is difficult to help a lost person to find himself, but it is even more difficult for him to correct himself. If a wife wants to save her husband, you need to stop making scandals, tantrums and crying, try to meet him calmly, kindly.
Ask yourself questions and answer them honestly:
- How can I change to get my husband to stop drinking?
- What am I ready for him to stop drinking?
Difficult? Hard? But there is no other way. Stop accusing him of all sins, smother him with homework, pinch, limit. For a time, remove from your consciousness the conviction that:
- He must do;
- he must be responsible;
- It's a man;
- he is obliged to "drag the family";
- he must, must, must. . .
There is already a sick person in front of you, you will help him to recover, and only then will remind him of his duty. In the meantime, stop constantly feeling guilty, don't focus on this problem, take care of yourself. And, perhaps, after that, your words about the perniciousness of alcohol will find an answer in his soul.
Understanding, patience, caring - this should surround a person, and the result of your efforts will be a strong family and a person who has quit drinking. Connect relatives and friends. It is possible that his father or his mother will succeed in convincing an alcoholic to seek treatment. Friends who are comfortable with alcohol can also help. The word of a friend often becomes a weighty argument in making an important decision.
How can I convince my son to stop drinking?
Stop drinking, being an alcoholic, the patient needs support. Isolate yourself from drinking friends, this is important for a successful fight against the green snake. Always support him, even if he fails and breaks. Let him try again to overcome the bad habit.
Do not keep alcoholic beverages at home, give up alcohol yourself. The explanation "I drink, but I know when to stop" does not fit. You can force yourself to stop drinking if you set a positive example yourself.
Measures to gradually limit the amount of alcohol in life do not work, there is no "cultural consumption". The complete and definitive refusal of alcohol is the main condition of sobriety.
What to do with alcoholics struggling with the "green snake"? Support them in their efforts and attempts to break the habit. For example, when the father persuaded him to stop drinking, and the son tries to refuse a drink, brightly show positive emotions, approval. If the son stumbles again, show sadness, displeasure. You have to help the drunk to cope with his addiction.
Can a person stop drinking on their own?
We want to warn you: self-treatment of alcoholics is rarely effective. Sometimes, with the help of character and willpower, this is possible if alcohol addiction has not reached the physical stage. The basis for quitting addiction is the desire to save the family, get a job, status in society, another goal, the achievement of which will be a reward for the efforts made. To help you should start practicing proper nutrition, jogging, weekly bathing procedures.
To combat alcoholism, folk and medical methods of treatment are widely used. Both options have advantages and disadvantages. They are often practiced when it is not possible to convince a drinking boyfriend, husband or son of the harmfulness of the habit.
There are pharmacological and folk preparations that cause extreme aversion to alcohol. They are harmless, do not cause addiction or rejection from the body. They contain substances totally incompatible with alcohol. They are added to the drink or food of the drinker.
After drinking alcoholic beverages, they cause an unpleasant reaction in the body: vomiting, nausea, dizziness, etc. Among the most common folk remedies use:
- thyme decoction;
- lamb decoction;
- Decoction of St. John's wort.
An interesting method of hidden persuasion to stop drinking existed in ancient times - the dung fungus. The mushroom contains a substance that stops the conversion of ethyl alcohol to acetaldehyde. If you eat a mushroom, and then drink alcohol, a person will show symptoms of severe poisoning. Our grandmothers thus imperceptibly weaned their husbands from alcohol. But in modern realities it is better not to use this method, especially since medicine has taken a step ahead.
Why is the help of specialists necessary?
If an alcoholic cannot stop drinking, not only hidden folk methods, but also drugs can be used. These are pharmacological formulations in the form of drops and tinctures. They are inexpensive. Medicines can be applied secretly, but success is not always possible.
If the disease has taken root for a long time and firmly, then the use of drops is not enough. Treatment of alcoholism in a hospital is necessary with the participation of doctors - a narcologist and a psychologist. In especially severe cases of alcoholism, it is no longer possible to do without the help of qualified doctors.
There are 3 stages of chronic alcoholism. If the first two still give hope to get rid of the disease on their own, then at the third stage alcoholics themselves will not stop drinking without the help of doctors.
There comes a time when the problems are getting worse every day, a decision has to be made about compulsory treatment. Such action is regulated by Law No. 323-FZ. The determination in a narcological dispensary is carried out according to the conclusion of a psychiatrist.
It is better not to bring to such a state and help alcoholics up to this time. Take care of your loved one in advance and find your own method to convince the drinker to stop drinking. The specialized clinic, on the other hand, will do everything possible to reintegrate a healthy person into society. Real professionals treat alcoholism at any stage and are ready to accompany you from the first consultation to full recovery.